Retreating when it’s tender.

Mar 19

A reflection on knowing when to retreat. And a reframe on what retreat means for you, and remembering its power, should you choose to receive it.

Perhaps you’re the kind of person who is go go go…
Or perhaps you’re generally really great at going inwards…

But let’s take a look and remember how this supports us in tending to our tender seasons.

Reframing retreat.
To retreat by definition means to pull back. Perhaps, going quiet.

It’s so easy for this to be translated into:

We’ve given up.
We’re procrastinating.
We’re in a state of freeze.

But what if retreat was…
a call to obedience?
an offering ourselves the space to tend to our hearts?
allowing yourself to simply catch your breath?
honouring your season in the wilderness?
how you quieted the noise so that you could hear yourself again?

We see it all the time, people “retreat” only to fill their time with otherness.

How many times have you simply “retreated” by filling the space with otherness?
We’re all guilty. After all, we’re human.

So I want to share with you some reflections I wrote down back in 2022 and came across them the other day. And they felt particularly beautiful and relevant to today’s share.

When you choose love, again and again, everything softens.
(Because by the way, to retreat with intentionality, is loving. And sometimes, it’s the most loving thing you can do right now.)

When you remember that you have the ability to choose a new trajectory in every now moment, worlds within worlds become available to you.

When you allow silence to speak, it gets loud, but it gets clear.

When you truly surrender to the divine within you, peace becomes your superpower and calm confidence becomes a beautiful by-product.

When you allow your heart to lead, remember that that takes courage and you’ll never be led astray.

When you remember that you’re nature, and that when you choose to move and be still with the seasons, real magic happens.

When you trust that it can be uncomfortable and still aligned, you get to know yourself a little more.

When you allow for ample breathing room, you give life to what your thinking mind didn’t even know was possible.

When you allow yourself to both give and receive fully, suddenly life feels more harmonious.

When you remember, no matter the circumstance, that it is you who is responsible for the way in which you choose to participate in this reality, expansion naturally occurs.

So, what’s the most loving thing you can do right now?

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